Recently I’ve been reading a book, it’s entitled F**K it: the ultimate spiritual way. I was immediately attracted to this book as soon as I heard the title. Clearly this holds some significance to me as I can clearly remember on a number of occassions me saying this infamous affirmation to myself. I think all of us expect the nuns and monks have at one time or another said this phrase. The books written by John Parkin an interesting writer who runs ‘fuck it’ retreats in Italy with his wife, apparently he gave up a good job to write this book and teach this philosophy.
The books starts by stating that when you say F**k it you let go of your hold on something. When you sya F**K it you give in to the flow of life you stop doing what you don’t want to do and start doing the things you always wanted to get done. You start listening to yourself and you carry out the ultimate spiritual act, you let go, you step resisting and relax into a natural flow. So in true style of the book say FUCK IT to something in your life now. It could be big or small, say F**k it to your diet and go and eat some cake for example.
This book resembles a few of things I have been reading recently. Most specifically mindfulness, this book often refers back the spiritual, the mindful and releasing yourself from your ties. I like this idea and I think it can often give some sense of freedom to an individual. Secondly the books suggests that the things we want the most, persue the most or value the most can cause us pain. Striving for something can cause us pain when we don’t get it, loving something who doesn’t love us causes us pain, wanting more money and not getting it causes us pain. So when we say fuck it to these things we feel freer from the ties of life and can often end up getting the things we want purly from the relaxation we get from not being tied down.
I thoroughly enjoyed reading this book. The humourous style, the easy reading and the enlightening ideas gave a new twist to your average self help book. I have been looking at ways to apply these ideas when working with my clients, wondering wether it has a place in sport where so much emphasis is put upon results which can often cause significant amounts of pain or anxiety having the ability to say F**k it and relax could be of use to athletes. All in all a great read.
Parkin, J. (2014) F**k it: the ultimate spiritual way. Hay House: London.